Interpersonal relations – silent terror or an open dispute with boyfriend: what is better?
Anger and rage are not foreign. These emotions are of course. Why are they regarded then as negative? It considers it a weakness to show them basically. Interpersonal relationships are something special…
Conflicts arise easily. It is more difficult to solve this
Expressing their own emotions
If you derive from the fury…
We would not say that the anger in itself makes a fool of the people. It’s more about the way of their listing. Ask yourself the question: let himself be overcome by anger or you can edit constructively? Only in the first case, it comes to embarrassing, uncontrolled seizures.
But at the moment if someone of anger is overwhelmed, often starting a fight. Even with your best friend! This dispute can lead to fracture of personal relationships and good human relations.
Interpersonal relationships are something quite complicated
The person who has expressed the own dissatisfaction on this type of uncontrolled is often declared “the bad”. Is this but right?
Passive aggression as an alternative to expressions of dissatisfaction
There’s a kind of passive aggression, which is perhaps far worse than the uncontrolled temper tantrums. It is more difficult to grasp. In a sense, passive aggression can be regarded also as smarter dealing with conflict situations. But then is passive aggression even meaner and more destructive?
Symptoms of passive aggression
Complain about others behind their back
Have you recognized themselves here? Do you sometimes? This aspect of passive aggression exerted the most. The man, about whom you complained is severely affected. His image is poorly made before third persons. At the same time the opportunity is taken away, to defend themselves. Because the person doesn’t know anything from the hostile to a specific point in time.
Silent terror exercise
They say “Yes” without to think it
Many passive aggressive people say “Yes” without to think it. This will avoid an open conflict with a friend. So they believe at least. The negative emotions but then accumulate and the collapse of relationships is only a matter of time.
Take on the role of the victim
Passive aggressive people often take the role of victim. Tell friends, acquaintances, family members, and certain circumstances guilty, if things don’t go to plan go. Passive aggressive people follow the narcissistic belief that there’s something like organised action against their luck.
The body language of a disaffected people
Passive aggressive people have no quarrel with a friend but something else is probably much worse: make evil faces all the time, show permanently in a quiet way that something does not fit where.
Make bad mines
People who are passive-aggressive, often look for a revenge. You do not confront the problem and thus makes its solution impossible. Man, they are evil, then has not the chance to explain their own behavior and correct. He will only get worse with time in the eyes of the passive aggressive person. The latter will be eventually entitled to avenge evil’s.
Passive aggressive people manipulate and control the people around them
Passive aggressive people want to achieve by manipulating one thing above all: they cause the others to get around to feel guilty.
In case of conflict, the two sides suffer
This weapon is used often by passive aggressive people. They use them to deeply hurting the others in the form of fun.
What is better – armed or passive aggression?
Most of us tend to switch between two modes of behavior. From a moral perspective, it’s probably obvious that the first alternative is open. The reality but makes things slightly more complex. If someone open disputes is not ready and is recommended on the basis of the circumstances in our circle of friends, we sometimes have no other choice than to defend passively. If you are in such a situation, you should ask themselves but the following questions:
Which part should I keep my behavior?
Help it, if I’m talking bad about a person in their absence (my contact can help me with advice or do I make a pointless, negative conversation?).
What must I do to defend myself and from what date the speech might revenge?
Should I make not the conditions less binding to this person and thus relieve both?
Finally, we would advise you to watch the others. Just like us, they also change. Perhaps a constructive dispute (i.e. discussion) at a later stage would be possible and useful.
Who will win?…
Discuss the issues
It’s nice when everything ends well